When it comes to cheating and affairs, we all know that men usually aren’t sexually satisfied in the relationship they are in. However over the past decade, as more and more men are working longer hours, it’s the women in these relationships that are no longer sexually satisfied in their relationship. You can see why TV shows around Desperate Housewives are so popular with married women; the underlying truth to the show speaks to these women.

AshleyMadison.com, a site that is dedicated to the discreet dating world, sees this first hand.  What’s fascinating about the site is their underground world.  While there are various forms of physical and emotional affairs, I wanted to focus on the physical for the moment.

For any partner that is looking to cheat, the number one concern is getting an STD (this actually ranks higher than getting caught, selfish selfish selfish! While a condom eliminates most of the risk, there is one STD that you are still at risk for with a condom – Genital Warts (HPV). HPV is rampant throughout the world. The reason for this is simple, even with a condom you can get warts.  Now, try going home and these hiding these warts from your partner. It’s virtually impossible.

As a result, you are seeing this resurgence in my personal favorite – oral sex. These meetings from AshleyMadison first start online with IM and email communication. You then reach a point where you meet at a semi private place. Since you’re both on the same page, you are creating a rather unique setting.  As you are both sexually and emotionally frustrated, the connection in a private setting dramatically increases the potential of a sexual encounter.

To further this point, both the man and the women in this situation WANT to perform oral. Such a shift to the way things were right? You are even seeing women perform BJs with a condom on. Here you thought this was for escorts only right fellas? As I mentioned earlier, the number one fear is getting an STD. By performing oral with a condom you are as safe as you can be with your pants down!

Now, this is no ashleymadison scam let me tell you, it’s simply human nature. Sometimes you need the emotional as well as the physical in a cheating / affair situation.  As you can imagine, finding a discreet partner doesn’t always happen. This is why Ashley came out with an affair guarantee. For $249 (not cheap, but cheaper and less risk than an escort), you are guaranteed an affair or your money back. This is the only package they provide you a guaranteed affair. So yea, what do you have to lose at this point right? If interested, read more about the affair program here.

Men of power and money go to high end escorts for a reason, discretion. The thousands of dollars they spend is due to power and money. But for the everyday person, spending thousands on an escort isn’t an option (whether it be for financial reasons or for the high risk of catching an STD). So the question becomes “How much would you pay for an affair”.

Whether you are a married man looking for discretion, or a single woman looking for a man to take care of her, how much is this all worth to you? AshleyMadison.com, a site that caters to discreet relationship, thinks the price is $249. For $249, this discreet dating matchmaking site will guarantee you an affair or your money back? Does this sound like an ashley madison scam? Let’s look into this a bit further.

To get an escort, you are spending at least $300 for an average escort for an hour. Throw in the shady business of escorts, plus the high risk of getting an STD (and bringing it home to your partner), you are putting yourself at tremendous risk. Instead, if you utilize their guarantee affair program, you are in fact minimizing the chances of obtaining an STD. Furthermore, you have the ability to connect in a mental and physical capacity that could ultimately save your marriage.

Sounds like twisted logic right? I mean, this has to be an ashley madison scam right? Well, ultimately to really know you would have to become a member. Since they only offer one package that is guaranteed, that is what I’d go with. Who knows, you might surprise yourself! Learn more about the guarantee program here.

When you take a site filled with married people and combine them with people that would do anything for a discreet relationship, you are creating an environment of extremely interesting encounters. For some, AshleyMadison.com is an enabler of infidelity. For others, it’s the best thing that could have ever happened in their lives. So who’s correct? Is ashley madison a scam or is it worth every penny?

To answer this question, you need to first understand why someone would join ashleymadison.com. You have single men that are looking for an intimate encounter. You have single women that are looking to be “taken care of”. You have married men that aren’t happy at home and don’t want to go the escort route. Instead, they go the discreet relationship route. Then you have the golden ticket, a married woman that isn’t happy at home either,  and is looking to find a discreet encounter with any man that can relate and respect her situation.

It is 2010 people, and AshleyMadison is gaining some major traction. With over 6 million member, they are looking to triple that number within one year. Think about the size of that. The US Census in 2009 has the US population at 306million. Remove people under 18 and over 65, you are left with about 200 million people.  With Ashley’s projections to clear 20 million members, you are looking at over 10% of the demographic to be looking for a discreet encounter.

Some question if Ashley Madison is a scam. Some feel that the members of AshleyMadison are not real, and that the company isn’t providing a genuine service. There really is only answer to this, look at the members that have found partners through Ashley Madison. Ask them if they think Ashley Madison is a scam.  From personal experience, the site has been a godsend. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve met some men that I wish I never came in contact with. Then again, that would be true on a regular dating site also.

One thing that I loved about AshleyMadison is the honesty amongst the dishonest. In short, you have individuals that are lying to their partners, but are being honest with their discreet partner / mistress.  Interesting twist on things isn’t it?  They even offer an affair guarantee program. Essentially, you if don’t find an affair within a few months, you get your money back